“When you allow yourself to see things as they really are, then – and only then – can you love yourself and others without hidden expectations. Detachment is the greatest act of love.”
~ Judith Hanson Lasater
It is possible to love someone deeply and still be unattached to outcome.
When praying with someone who is terminally ill, we may have a deep personal attachment to having them stick around, but Truth tells us a great soul expansion or healing can take place during the let go process of transitioning. In light of that our practice serves to aid and comfort us while still challenging us to practice detachment knowing something deeper and more mystical is at work.
It is the same when relationships, jobs or finances are in flux. The form a relationship has always existed in can die because growth has taken place, but in the dying process, a new relationship is born. The relationship may involve the two people relating in a different way or perhaps what is at stake is each individuals’ relationship with him or her self. At every point on the continuum the birth/death/birth cycle is happening, whether we can identify it in the midst of the process or not.
Spiritual practice calls us to continually awaken to the Truth. Consciousness reins us in from attachment because as soon as we become comfortable, as soon as stasis sets in, we are in danger of lulling ourselves back into the blissful sleep of the unconscious.
The challenge is to love, to deeply love without limits and to love beyond our comfort zones. With that love we stoke the healing fire within that is Spirit as us and step out of the way and pray, confident that the highest and best possible outcome is already at hand.
It is possible to love someone deeply and still be unattached to outcome. It is possible even in the darkest hour of the darkest night for God is with us, as us, always.
The moment of awakening is NOW, and I surrender completely to this higher awareness. I release, step aside and say YES. Thy will be done. And so it is. Amen.