“Be impeccable with your word.”
~ The first of the “Four Agreements” by don Miguel Ruiz
One of the first things I learned when I came into New Thought teaching was about the power of our word. The words “I Am” by themselves are the alpha and omega of the Universe. One of the simplest, most powerful prayers you can speak is, “God Is – I Am”.
Every thought, word and action is, in and of itself, a form of prayer, so we need to be mindful of what we follow those two words with because the Universe is like an impartial servant to us, delivering that which we request.
I Am Integrity.
The four year anniversary of my mother’s passing is coming up and I have been feeling the call to do something special to honor it. I wanted to do something personally meaningful and also something to signify to myself and to the Universe that I’m stepping up my game.
The past several years in the wake of my mom’s passing have been difficult ones for me, the first three years in particular. My mom and I had come to the end of the road in our relationship, and even though the process of her passing was as painless as it could have been under the circumstances, after she was gone I realized I still had baggage within myself to clean up.
Missing her and grieving was only part of the process. As the years wore on I realized how much disappointment and guilt I had about all the promises I’d broken to her, and to myself, over the years. When all was said and done between us, I don’t think she held on to any of it, but when she made her transition I realized I had, and I was still punishing myself for it.
Not too long ago I had heard about an organization called “Because I Said I Would” and I sent away for 10 free “Promise” cards. As I was pondering what I wanted to do to honor this anniversary of my mom’s passing, the cards came in the mail, and in a flash I saw what I could do to continue to facilitate my own healing and to honor the memory of my mother in a personal way.
So, here’s what I’m up for, and if you want to join me at any point along the way in this journey, I welcome and support your intention to stand in integrity with your word too.
Starting Sunday, August 17th I will be drawing a promise card at random and I will be fulfilling one promise to myself per week. The task I’ve chosen for the first week will be to come up with 52 things to do that can be accomplished in a week using the SMART acronym as a guideline:
My goals / promises to myself will be:
Specific – “I will clean out the hall closet” as opposed to, “I will clean the house.”
Measurable – I have a pretty small hall closet!
Assignable – I’m responsible for completing them, but I can ask for, or hire, help if I need to.
Realistic – Can I really get this done in a week?
Time-related – One promise a week for 52 weeks.
My tasks can be anything I want them to be. They can be goal oriented, or they can be something fun that I’ve been meaning to do, but have been putting off, i.e. “Plan a beach day and go!”
The other thing that this particular challenge involves for me that I was initially struggling with was to add the component of accountability in. I knew I wanted to do this, but I felt somewhat self-conscious about laying this all out here on my blog and on social media.
For the most part I know that this entire challenge is something I’m doing for myself to flex and build my own Integrity muscle, so to speak, but there is a part of me that’s still mortified at the idea of going public with it. What if I put this out there and then abandon the idea after a week? Do I need anything ELSE to feel guilty about? Heavens, no!
But the freeing thing about this is the realization that this is the Internet and… who really cares? Yeah, maybe I’ll mess up and make some missteps, but maybe, just maybe, I’ll actually do this.
So, because I obviously need an excuse to get naked in public more often – *ahem* – part of the challenge will be for me to blog about how I’m doing with the challenge (at least) once a week.
While I was in my squeamy moment of indecision about this I sat for prayer and this was the answer I got from Spirit on it:
So here we go! My official start date for this challenge is Sunday, August 17th, the 4 year anniversary of my mom’s passing and my goal is to keep a promise a week to myself for 52 weeks in her honor.
The open Facebook event is here:
My Word Is Law: The Integrity Challenge
Once you say, “Yes!” to joining me on the journey I’ll add you to a closed group on Facebook so that we can support one another and share along the way.
You can join or leave the challenge at any point along the way, and there’s no cost to participate.
That’s it for now, but I’ll be writing more as I move deeper in.